Husband Appreciation Post

Thank you for being the reason I smile.

Since I am new to this whole “blogging” thing and my posts are mostly in chronological order, I have to admit I was stumped with how to go about adding in new things. At first I just wrote and made a note [ —- I have no idea where this is going to fit, however I need to write so I’m writing.]  which seemed like the logical thing to do. However, if I just kept writing and posting in order then I’d never be caught up, unless I did a major post dump. Which I suppose is always possible; I mean the last published post was 04. and I already have up to 11. in my drafts. Buuuuutttt no!

So I am sitting here trying to figure out a way to differentiate between [the beginning] and what I want to write about, literally right now. Igor (OH! Perfect example for why I’m stumped!! You see, the last relationship I mentioned was Kevin, which we really haven’t even dove into yet. AND O.M.G. I just now realized that I haven’t even published his introductory post yet. Whoops. See the struggle?!?) Damn… <- And yes, I could have deleted all of that but then I wouldn’t be sticking to my truth. So moving on.

It was my husband’s (^ Igor) idea to simply not number current posts. Uhmm… so simple yet BRiLLiaNT!! And of course [obviously] I can and will categorize them as current vs. the beginning but I am giving Igor the win here! It is the “Husband Appreciation” post after all! Though, it wasn’t the brilliant idea that sparked this post. Oh no, Igor deserves every damn praise I can give him right now! 

You see, our 10th Wedding Anniversary was last August and the ONLY thing I wanted was an ‘anniversary cake’ made the same way as our wedding cake.

That didn’t happen.

… nor did I receive anything else …

Okay, this is absolutely an appreciation post for him and I certainly don’t want to speak (type?) ill of him but again, my truth. Igor isn’t a gift giver, which would be easier to handle if my love language wasn’t [receiving gifts.] – >Yup<  – It has definitely caused some issues as I am sure you can imagine, however, we are at an incredible place in our marriage and our communication has never been more open and honest as it is right now!! He’s working on it and I’ve called in reinforcements (my oh so magnificent Young One/cousin/best friend who was helping me to edit these posts {initially}). When your love language is receiving gifts you know how to give a damn good gift! ::Brushes Shoulders Off:: And by gift it doesn’t even need to be something bought, just simply something showing that you’re thinking of me. A note, a flower from the garden, a drawn heart on the bathroom mirror with a dry erase marker, a planned date, anything. It’s about showing that you’re thinking of me and -wanting- to do something to fill my bucket. It’s the added effort behind it vs. just getting the latest thing off my Amazon wish list, you know? Sara’s love language is also receiving gifts so being one of my best friends and not just my cousin, she sure knows me and can offer up some superb ideas!

Now back to why an appreciation post was a MUST!! 

While I may not have gotten my cake for our anniversary, it needs to be noted that the baker who made our wedding cake retired from her business and neither of us were aware of it. After feeling my true disappointment about our anniversary, Igor was able to get a hold of her and get recommendations for other bakers. She let him know what to ask for since it was a cake she had never made before and those other bakers likely hadn’t either. So, he reached out but none of those other bakers would make it!?! I mean it was unique I’ll give you that but it shouldn’t have been too difficult for a baker…

You guys, this man took it upon himself to BAKE IT FROM SCRATCH all by himself!!! What?! I have never felt more loved, seen, heard or appreciated! The effort he put into this thing? OMG!!! The only time he has ever baked before was for my 25th birthday. I wasn’t able to have dairy at that time since I was still nursing and my Bookinns couldn’t handle dairy products. He tried making me a simple dairy free chocolate cake but it was nothing compared to this cake! This cake? This is a 4 layer strawberry and chocolate marbled cake with ricotta and chocolate filling and cream cheese frosting sprinkled with chocolate!!! All. From. Scratch!! We’re talking even real fresh strawberries! Ha. I literally CRY just thinking about it!!! My bucket is so full I cannot stop smiling, WOW! I love you Igor so freaking much, my appreciation is beyond words. Thank you, THANK YOU, thank you!!

But honestly, above all, I am so damn PROUD of you!!! My uncontrollable smile and tears are in part from beaming with pride. Seriously, you’ve done an amazing job! I LOVE YOU!!!!!